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I think I speak for many Primos when I say thank you for this podcast. Over the last 4 years, it has been one of a handful of things that made me feel less crazy as my world/peer group/industry took a nosedive into an ideological abyss. Wondering "wait, is it me or...?" was often a disorienting and lonely experience. Podcasts like BARpod were very reassuring and also helped me avoid letting the excesses of one side drive me to the excesses of the other. You and that tall guy (Jeff? Jeppe?) remain nuance pervs, and I'm grateful for your kink.

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Agreed. I have a full life, but this podcast is a little bit of extra joy for me whenever a new episode is released. This podcast pairs well with a good cup of coffee to spit out when Katie says something hilarious about fake internet people faking their fake internet deaths or something else equally ridiculous.

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WELL WELL WELL, LOOK AT YOU WITH YOUR FULL LIFE! ARE YOU SAYING THIS HOME DEPOT BUCKET FULL OF CHICKEN BONES I FOUND AND UPON WHICH I DREW A SMILEY FACE AND NAMED FRED ISN'T A FULL LIFE? HOW DARE YOU JUDGE ME AND FRED! WE HAVE A BEAUTIFUL LIFE!

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I didn't say why or how my life is full. It's actually because of my Lowe's bucket full of raccoon bones.

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Oh, how is Wendell, anyway? He's one of the best bone buckets out there!

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He's getting heavy. I have a serious raccoon problem.

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100%. I’ve been a primo since almost the very beginning and this is the one podcast I rarely put off listening to when it drops. I’ve laughed, I’ve cried, I’ve gone on a date (there was another lesbian in Stockholm!), and I’ve felt less alone in a crazy world. ❤️

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Here here! 🥃

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You've said it for me!

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Ditto!

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Wait a second, listening to all this internet bullshit makes you feel *less* crazy?

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You definitely speak for me!

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I'm basically the Mouth of Sauron for Primos!

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You and Jesse help me stay sane. Thank YOU, Katie!

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What a lovely, heartfelt message. Katie's account has obviously been hacked.

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Katie Herzog speaking in a heartfelt and sincere way has been one of the oddest developments of this year. Between the Andy Mills/Matt Boll episode last month, her opening up about alcoholism, and this post, I might almost think that Katie likes some people.

I'm thankful for this podcast too. It's odd because I don't actually wade into internet drama myself all that much. The thing that BARPOD as a community does that I'm most thankful for is one that I think Jesse and Katie might not even be conscious of; it's one of the few podcasts I can think of that organically supports the ideal of pluralism. Really who else would seek to give voice to the non-binary conservative? The podcast and the community give me the impression that people with unusual beliefs or just an unusual set of beliefs (speaking as basically a conservative evangelical democratic socialist who loves guns and would like the government to remove themselves from social issues as much as possible) can still live in a healthy and functioning society and even enjoy each other's company, or at least maybe.

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Katie's shameful secret is that she's actually a nice person. I rumbled her a while ago. Don't let this get about.

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Awww. That is so sweet. When my husband was canceled from his non-profit in June 2020, you guys were the only people talking about the madness. In between talks with lawyers, dealing with the investigation, trying to figure out if we still had health insurance and all that, my husband spent that summer walking our dog and listening to BarPod. You were really the only thing that made us laugh during that time. Being publicly accused of upholding white supremacy, the patriarchy, and adultism sounds so absurd, but everyone else around us was afraid to say it. So thank you! You guys were a balm. I always meant to reach out and tell you, but I'm a very slacker-y fangirl.

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Adultism? This is a new ism that Jesse and Katie have not reported on. Maybe they should interview your husband. I toi went through nonprofit hell!

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Please tell me this is parody?

If serious: Also interesting how there is one thing he seems to leave off in terms of children’s supposed decision making autonomy. Huh!

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Looks like you need to educate yourself! https://www.chicagofreedomschool.org/trainings

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I stumbled upon an institute of childish the other day, at a reputable university. Not quite sure yet exactly what their agenda is

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I was told to read a 400 page book on microaggressions because I called someone young. I was talking about generational differences.

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Kafkaesque.

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Sorry, *childism

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I concur!

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I know this kind of direct response will make you grimace, but I’m grateful for you, too. And Jesse. For the way you’ve made the world feel bigger and freer. Happy Thanksgiving to you and the whole extended B&R family.

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I'm from the UK, where the general response to life's darkness is to make a joke about it, and I think that's why I love Barpod so much. You and Jesse take what is a surreal, farcical and often depressing online landscape of grifters, narcissists and their enablers, and turn it into something that makes me laugh. And for that I'm very grateful. I don't think there's another podcast out there that does what you do half so well.

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I am not grateful that I am the one who has to remind everybody today to please put a towel over any furniture that your genitals might come in contact with. This is a children's play space for God's sake!

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Thankful for you guys, Katie and Jesse and Jessica and Trace (may he rest in non-podcast peace), and of course for all the people here with a diversity of opinions who regularly challenge and remind me to stay curious, to walk gently on the balance beam of nuance, to check myself before I wreck connections (okay fine it doesn't rhyme), to seek to offer grace and assume the best in everyone I meet. Crazy as it may sound, I do think I'm a better person for having joined this community. Happy TG y'all!

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Thank you for giving me a new way to think and talk about some of the dumbest and most important things out there. ❤️

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Without you I wouldn’t know what adult baby diaper lovers are…so thankful!!

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But... wouldn't that be better?

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Sometime in the summer of 2020 when Manhattan was all but deserted and I was wandering the empty streets with my wife, empty that is except for the protesters and looters that for some reason the media was not reporting on, and finding myself puzzled by friends/coworkers afraid to leave their houses who declared we need more government safety and yet less police, and thinking I was going crazy, I discovered this podcast. And that has made all the difference in the world.

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aw that was nice. but i can assure you, i do suck.

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We all do, that's why we congregate here ❤️

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I’m grateful for you Katie ❤️ my wife and I love listening to your podcast together and are amongst your biggest fans ❤️

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Beautiful message, Katie (though don't think we didn't notice how you snuck Jesse in there too, we know the love). I think that's why so many of us fought for the original intro-music, it's like a familiar musical harbinger of upcoming level-headed takes, sanity, and the kinds of digs and jokes one only gets if they listen carefully. Or are a die-hard Primo. Back atcha. xx

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Omg Katie we love you! What an absolute gift for the feed.

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Happy Thanksgiving to our lesbian cousin, and thanks for producing a podcast that reinforces no matter what is happening in the world, being funny and friendship come first.

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