For people from small towns, going to college where you're surrounded by people who are (theoretically) interested in higher learning, who come from a variety of places, and who may be from a different socioeconomic group than you are -- can be a once in a lifetime opportunity. You are living in a central location, and have many opportun…
For people from small towns, going to college where you're surrounded by people who are (theoretically) interested in higher learning, who come from a variety of places, and who may be from a different socioeconomic group than you are -- can be a once in a lifetime opportunity. You are living in a central location, and have many opportunities to interact. She wasn't saying it's the ONLY reason to go to college.
This. I met my husband in college. I was 17, he was 18 and it was, of all things, at a dorm ice skating party for a dorm I didn’t even live in. We started dating when I was 19 and we eloped at 21 and 22.
Marrying a man who went to college (and has parents who went to college) definitely has helped the arc of my life. And I’ve been doing life for 22 years with a pretty awesome guy.
A lot of my friends met their spouses in high school or college, even if they didn’t marry until years later.
I don’t want my 20 yo son to rush anything relationship wise but I do consider the next few years of his life to be the most likely time for him to meet a potential spouse.
This goes more so for people who, for any mix of reasons (religious, culturally, personality), have no desire to date a ton of people and who have family as a main goal.
My son is the sort who, had they not had major values differences, he might well have ended up eventually marrying his first girlfriend. Instead, he broke it off with her after 6 months because he decided that their differences were too big of a gulf for marriage. She definitely wanted it to be a forever thing with him.
While I don’t want my son to get married quite as young as his dad and I did, I would be a hypocrite if I didn’t think it might happen.
For people from small towns, going to college where you're surrounded by people who are (theoretically) interested in higher learning, who come from a variety of places, and who may be from a different socioeconomic group than you are -- can be a once in a lifetime opportunity. You are living in a central location, and have many opportunities to interact. She wasn't saying it's the ONLY reason to go to college.
This. I met my husband in college. I was 17, he was 18 and it was, of all things, at a dorm ice skating party for a dorm I didn’t even live in. We started dating when I was 19 and we eloped at 21 and 22.
Marrying a man who went to college (and has parents who went to college) definitely has helped the arc of my life. And I’ve been doing life for 22 years with a pretty awesome guy.
A lot of my friends met their spouses in high school or college, even if they didn’t marry until years later.
I don’t want my 20 yo son to rush anything relationship wise but I do consider the next few years of his life to be the most likely time for him to meet a potential spouse.
This goes more so for people who, for any mix of reasons (religious, culturally, personality), have no desire to date a ton of people and who have family as a main goal.
My son is the sort who, had they not had major values differences, he might well have ended up eventually marrying his first girlfriend. Instead, he broke it off with her after 6 months because he decided that their differences were too big of a gulf for marriage. She definitely wanted it to be a forever thing with him.
While I don’t want my son to get married quite as young as his dad and I did, I would be a hypocrite if I didn’t think it might happen.
Thank you.
Anytime, sister. 🫶